Sometimes I reminisce about my 20s dating life. A song comes on the radio and a memory flashes. I see myself precariously treading in heels through the icy parking lot of a banquet hall. The bitter January breeze bites the back of my neck as I contemplate the clanking of closing car doors ahead. What did it take to be one of those women – the women whose men knew it was only acceptable to let them out at the front door. I’m envious, no embarrassed. Still embarrassed in my recollection I’m awaken by the frustration of a suckling baby. It’s 3 A.M. I feel irrational resentment for my husband’s useless nipples. If only we could both breastfeed. My milk production is still low, and so the baby needs a bottle. I open the fridge to find one has already been made. I forgive him a bit for his useless nipples.
As a new mom my new life is hashtag hectic! Teamwork in marriage has a new meaning. And while our marriage and new parent teamwork is far from perfect, it does make me appreciate and value a few things. I consider the low criteria I set in my dating years and how the results of that could have been catastrophic in a marriage speak less in parenting. Simply put there are some things that absolutely matter in a dating relationship, if you expect to have a shot at surviving the challenges of marriage and family. Why Do People Say Marriage is Hard?