Blog-aversary – Celebrating 1 Year of Blogging

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This month marks the 1 year blog anniversary for LoveFromtheOtherSide.com!

In honor of this, I’d like to highlight my top 5 favorite blog post.  If you discovered the blog later in the year you may not have read these post yet.  Enjoy!

#1 –  If Not Love Then What? 6 Reasons Why I Married Him Other Than Love

love1Six months before I got engaged my friend asked me if I wanted to marry my boyfriend now husband. I said yeah and she asked why. After five minutes of me explaining and no usage of the word “love” she looked at me confused and said…”and because you love him right?”

I was surprised I hadn’t actually said the L word in my long-winded rant, but slightly more annoyed that she insistently needed me to. I did love and am in love with my husband very much, but love wasn’t why I married him nor why I wanted to at the time. Before him I’d been “in love” at least 3 times and claimed love more times than I can remember yet I’d never been married. Love simply isn’t enough to warrant marriage. So if not love then what? If love isn’t enough to equate marriage what are the other ingredients?    Continue Reading

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Are Your Dating Expectations Too High?

How do you know if your dating expectations are too high?  You can start by understanding what your criteria currently is.

In my early 20s my dating criteria looked like this:

  • Physical attractiveness
  • Personality compatibility
  • Common interest
  • Intelligence

As you get older you might find that you value different things more or less and your dating criteria adapts.  In my late 20s my criteria had evolved to include:

  • Financial Stability
  • Religious compatibility
  • Cultural compatibility
  • Attentive & affectionate
  • Tactful & Kind
  • Humble
  • Marriage oriented

Having criteria is great. It ensures you aren’t dating arbitrarily or purposelessly and it helps to make sure you aren’t setting the bar too low.  But how do you know your expectations aren’t too high?  The Taboo Question: Is Purposeful Dating Still Okay?

Here are 4 ways you can evaluate your expectations to consider if they are too high:

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Why do people say marriage is hard?

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Why do married people say that marriage is so hard?  This is the question I asked myself repeatedly before getting married.  Were they all just in bad marriages?  Surely my marriage would be different.  What could be so hard about spending your life with your best friend?  Shouldn’t that be easy?

I have now been married for 1 year and 7 months.  I think marriage is a gift from God. It is the best thing I could have done, and I love my spouse more than words can express……BUT…..  MARRIAGE IS HARD.   In this article I will share my opinion of why I think people say marriage is hard.  To all my married readers who have been in it for much longer, I hope you will share even more perspective in the comments.

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