10 Ways to be Supportive During Her Pregnancy

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Pregnancy is an exciting time for a couple, but it can also be a challenging 40 weeks.  If you are the supporting partner here are 10 things you can do to help your spouse.

  1. Book prenatal massages

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Midway through the second trimester everything begins to feel uncomfortable.  By the third trimester back pain is ridiculous, restless leg syndrome may set in, the hips begin to hurt from the extra weight and etc etc.  Sleeping through the night requires the perfect juxtaposition of body pillows which is then interrupted every 20 mins. for potty breaks.  Giving your partner daily back massages helps a lot.  Additionally if you can afford to, book your partner a few professional prenatal massages.  At 31 weeks my husband booked me a prenatal massage and it was the most comfortable I’ve felt in the entire pregnancy.  I can not emphasize how grateful I was.

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You Can’t Heal His Heart: A Note to Rebound Chicks

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“Previously published by Thought Catalog at www.thoughtcatalog.com.”

If you are a fan of the HBO show “Insecure” then you probably have some opinion of the character Tasha.  In season 1, the lead character Issa breaks up with her long-term boyfriend Lawrence who has been unemployed for some time and lacks confidence in his career direction.  Prior to the breakup, Issa has grown impatient with Lawrence who claims he is “working on his business plan”.  As Issa’s impatience grows and friction builds in the doomed relationship, Lawrence seeks comfort from a brewing friendship with his bank teller Tasha.  After the inevitable breakup of Issa and Lawrence, Tasha is there to console Lawrence and “heal his heart” in hopes of becoming his new girlfriend.  Unfortunately, Tasha’s plan fails and she is nothing but a rebound chick.  Tasha is our perfect example of how trying to heal a man’s broken heart will land you in the rebound chick zone.

Here’s why it won’t work:

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Money & Relationships: Guest post from Know Longer Single

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I’d like to introduce you to my blogger friends, fellow relationship bloggers Daryl and Dominique!  This week the Know Longer Single Youtubers have provided a guest post response to my article Money, How Much Does it Matter in a Relationship?

In the original post we asked the following questions and readers from around the country wrote in their responses on the topic of money & relationships.  Does it matter how much money your significant other makes?  Ladies, does it matter if a man makes significantly less money than you?  Would you date a guy who made less money?  If so would you marry him, all other things considered?  Men, does it matter to you how much money a woman makes?  If a woman made more money than you would that be an issue?

A few of the reader responses included:

“Money is as much about power and identity as it is about money. It’s less about who has the money, but more about, given our different values, how can we make this work… forever? ” –Female, 34, Houston, TX

“Money equates freedom to me. Freedom to venture, leisurely travel, give back, invest, build a business together, etc…..a lack of financial security and independence along with a drive to succeed are deal breakers.”                                           – Female, 33 – Chicago, IL

“It is not a problem to me if a woman makes more money than I do.  However, she needs to be cognizant of the limitations of my disposable  income.”   – Male, 32, Washington D.C.

Daryl & Dom are always fun to watch with a great dynamic and enlightening perspective.  Here’s what they had to say on the topic of money & relationships!

Daryl and Dominique met in 2015 and have been inseparable ever since. They both love to travel and are foodies at heart.  On their youtube channel Know Longer Single they give relationship advice while helping people navigate through the “single” phase of their lives and teaching them how to do life as a unit with their significant other.

You can find more of KnowLongerSingle at:

Instagram: #knowlongersingle

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Should Single Women Wait 90 Days Before Having Sex?

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If you grew up in a religious household like I did then you were probably told that

good girls wait until marriage.”

Then there was the 6th grade health teacher who told us that

“sex is the greatest gift you’ll ever give to a partner and so you should cherish your virginity and give it to the right person.” 

Her advice was so loosely interpreted that some girls started plotting the loss of their virginity before the end of the class period.

And then there’s Steve Harvey and his 90-Day Rule.  If you haven’t read his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man Steve’s 90 day rule encourages women to wait 90 days before having sex with a man.  The 90 days is compared to the 90 days one must wait to receive benefits at a new job.  He argues that just as a new employer requires vetting time before investing in health insurance and fringe benefits for an employee a woman should require some vetting before giving away sexual benefits.

In this article I’m going to share my opinion and then I’d like to hear yours.  I want to emphasize first that this is only my opinion, and if you disagree that’s cool, no judgement.

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