You Can’t Heal His Heart: A Note to Rebound Chicks

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“Previously published by Thought Catalog at www.thoughtcatalog.com.”

If you are a fan of the HBO show “Insecure” then you probably have some opinion of the character Tasha.  In season 1, the lead character Issa breaks up with her long-term boyfriend Lawrence who has been unemployed for some time and lacks confidence in his career direction.  Prior to the breakup, Issa has grown impatient with Lawrence who claims he is “working on his business plan”.  As Issa’s impatience grows and friction builds in the doomed relationship, Lawrence seeks comfort from a brewing friendship with his bank teller Tasha.  After the inevitable breakup of Issa and Lawrence, Tasha is there to console Lawrence and “heal his heart” in hopes of becoming his new girlfriend.  Unfortunately, Tasha’s plan fails and she is nothing but a rebound chick.  Tasha is our perfect example of how trying to heal a man’s broken heart will land you in the rebound chick zone.

Here’s why it won’t work:

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Money & Relationships: Guest post from Know Longer Single

Happy Monday everyone,

I’d like to introduce you to my blogger friends, fellow relationship bloggers Daryl and Dominique!  This week the Know Longer Single Youtubers have provided a guest post response to my article Money, How Much Does it Matter in a Relationship?

Daryl & Dom are always fun to watch with a great dynamic and enlightening perspective.  Enjoy!

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Should Single Women Wait 90 Days Before Having Sex?

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If you grew up in a religious household like I did then you were probably told that

good girls wait until marriage.”

Then there was the 6th grade health teacher who told us that

“sex is the greatest gift you’ll ever give to a partner and so you should cherish your virginity and give it to the right person.” 

Her advice was so loosely interpreted that some girls started plotting the loss of their virginity before the end of the class period.

And then there’s Steve Harvey and his 90-Day Rule.  If you haven’t read his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man Steve’s 90 day rule encourages women to wait 90 days before having sex with a man.  The 90 days is compared to the 90 days one must wait to receive benefits at a new job.  He argues that just as a new employer requires vetting time before investing in health insurance and fringe benefits for an employee a woman should require some vetting before giving away sexual benefits.

In this article I’m going to share my opinion and then I’d like to hear yours.  I want to emphasize first that this is only my opinion, and if you disagree that’s cool, no judgement.

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