Be Happy NOW! Don’t Postpone Your Happiness

Hello ladies,

I’m Nora Nur from the relationship blog Love From the Other Side.  I am honored to be a participant in the Women_Who_Empower_ challenge that has been running June 15, 2017 – June 30, 2017.  For the past week or so the ladies in the challenge have been working toward personal development through goal setting, meditation, journaling, positive thought and so much more.  If you haven’t yet joined the challenge go check it out on the Instagram page women_who_empower_.    Today I was featured to discuss maintaining positive personal development while pursuing and/or maintaining a romantic relationship. 

Below are 3 ideas to know and practice daily to help you do this:

#1 Happiness is not a “when event” – Be Happy Now

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Sometimes we say to ourselves,  “I’ll be happy when I have a healthy romantic relationship”,  or “I’ll be happy with myself and feel beautiful when I lose 20 lbs”.   The problem with this thinking is that the when event either never occurs or it occurs and we still don’t feel happy.  Our happiness should not be conditional upon future events.  If you aren’t happy single, then when the novelty of a new healthy relationship wears off you will go back to being unhappy.  Likewise if you don’t feel beautiful and happy with yourself now, when the novelty of the new weight loss is gone you will go back to feeling discontent.  Dig deeper.  Find inner peace in the right now, and learn to love yourself and your life as it is right now.

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Are you Apologizing Too Much in your Relationship?

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Last night I spilled a 16 ounce bottle of ice water in the master bed while we were laying down watching a movie.  “Move” I screamed, jumping as fast as a six month pregnant woman can jump.  The water was swimming pool cold and all 16 ounces of it had made it’s way out of the bottle, onto the sheets and comforter and was now soaking into the mattress.  “I’m so sorry” I told my husband, expecting him to be pissed.  But to my surprise he was cracking up laughing.  He wasn’t even slightly upset.  He thought it was hilarious.  We grabbed towels, soaked up the water as best we could, then changed the bedding.  A few minutes later we were back in bed continuing the movie.

We’ve been together four years now yet somehow I still forget just how much it takes to make him upset.  He never gets mad over accidental mishaps, and it takes a lot in general to get him upset.  He doesn’t understand why it’s so hard for me to understand this.  The answer lies in the past.

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Dating During Ramadan: How I Fell In Love with My Husband

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For those that are unfamiliar, Ramadan is a religious month of fasting observed by Muslims.  During the month Muslims fast from sunrise to sunset abstaining from food and water.  Additionally, Muslims should practice prayer, positive thought, charity and increased empathy toward the poor.  Purpose of Fasting During Ramadan   Ramadan uses the lunar calendar which is two weeks shorter than the solar calendar.  As a result, the month of Ramadan occurs two weeks earlier each year relative to the business calendar.  For example Ramadan, in 2013, the year I met my husband started July 9th and ended August 8th.  Now four years later Ramadan of 2017 began May 27 and will end  June 25.  It takes 26 years for the month of Ramadan to cycle the solar calendar.  The advantage to this rotation is that Muslims practicing Ramadan all over the world will have an opportunity to experience both long summer fast and short winter fast.  When I was a teenager Ramadan was in December and the days lasted only 11-12 hours.  Now that it is in the summer, the days last 16-17 hours.  So what’s all of this have to do with dating?  10 Things I Want Non-Muslims to Know About Being Muslim

table-covered-glass-cutlery-128875When you are single you meet people however, wherever and whenever you meet them.  Throughout my twenties I would often meet a new person and begin dating them months or weeks before the start of Ramadan.  Then Ramadan would start and suddenly I’d be less available.  I couldn’t accept brunch invitations, early dinner dates, or stay out super late.  I also wanted to avoid hot summer festivals since I couldn’t drink water during the day.  Being so unavailable for an entire month, near the start of a new dating relationship usually caused whatever was starting to end before it even really began.  And with Ramadan falling in the summer months (August – May) for quite a number of my relevant dating age years this really posed as a problem.   Continue reading

Patiently Waiting to Get Engaged

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This past week a friend of mine got engaged and left this comment in her status,

“the MINUTE you stop nagging…the ring appears!”  

This led me to reflect on my own engagement and the journey to getting engaged.  My husband and I dated for 2 1/2 years before getting engaged.  At the one and a half year mark I brought up marriage.

Initiating Marriage Talk

pexels-photo-374592I remember reading an article that stated that women in long term relationships WOULD need to bring up the topic of marriage.  Even in healthy happy dating relationships men get comfortable and unprompted to push things to the next level.   Women would need to be the ones to present the idea.

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An Interview with Relationship Blogger Nora Nur

An Interview with Nora Nur – from the Relationship Blog Love From the Other Side

What made you decide to start a blog on the topic of relationships?

For years I was the friend with the hilarious or ridiculous dating stories.  My friends would laugh and say, “No really, that didn’t actually happen did it?”  While I enjoyed always having a good story to tell, I also was getting restless and ready for marriage.  Finally, in March of 2016 I got married to a really great guy.  In the months to follow I did a lot of reflecting on what had changed.  How had I changed?  How had my approach to dating changed?  Had my mindset changed?  I wanted to specifically know what positive changes had led to more successful dating and eventually marriage.  This is what the blog is about.  The blog helps women bridge the gap between being single and married by discussing dating mistakes, self- love, forgiveness, dating strategies and how to make necessary mindset shifts.

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